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We are featured in the Daily Mail, 17 January 2016

Daily Mail

How I beat the baby blues - By Sarah Stacey

Mother of two Louise Moxon, 40, reveals how postnatal depression turned her from a successful businesswoman with a bubbly personality into someone consumed with anxiety and despair.

My first pregnancy was easy. I worked right up to my due date and my daughter Lilah was born on 28 November 2004.

The delivery was normal and for the first few weeks I was fine. But at ten weeks when I was preparing to return to work, the nanny left suddenly.

I found someone else but I felt an unbelievable pull to stay with my baby.

My business partner had returned three months after the birth of her child so I felt I had to do the same. There was financial pressure, too.

On day one, I felt horrible butterflies in my tummy and as the weeks passed it got much worse.

I was desperately anxious about whether my baby was all right. I sat in meetings not really present. I couldn't concentrate.

Life was manic. I ran home in my jogging kit every night to put Lilah to bed.

One day I just had to leave a meeting. I told my husband, 'I can't do this any longer.' Actually I couldn't do anything.

My doctor diagnosed me with postnatal depression, referred me to a psychiatrist and gave me a book called Depressive Illness: The Curse of the Strong by Dr Tim Cantopher (Sheldon Press, 8.99).

Chapter one was about striving for success and wanting everything to be perfect and orderly.

I realised that - by my standards - having a baby meant I was completely out of control.

The moment I grasped that I had an illness I started to get better. But I did feel a sense of shame that I wasn't a proper mother, that my feelings were unnatural.

There were days when I couldn't leave the house for fear of what might happen.

My family and friends were brilliant, and acupuncture helped me to relax.

I started cognitive behavioural therapy, which helped me change my thought processes so I could make sense of negative ones, rather than thinking this shouldn't be happening to me. I planned each day, almost hour by hour at first, which helped me regain some order.

I also went to a support group and discovered that lots of other mothers had the same problem. It helped me understand that I wasn't a failure.

As I recovered, I realised you have nothing without your health so I left my job in 2005.

After losing a baby at five months in 2007, I became pregnant again.

My son was born in December 2008. I started to feel depressed but this time was able to nip it in the bud.

I knew I wanted to do something to help women going through similar problems so I set up Cocoon UK, a personalised service that matches experienced maternity nurses and nannies to mothers. All our staff are trained in treating postnatal depression.

I am now happy and healthy and so are my children.